We all have dark days.

There are some days that we are discouraged to the point that we can't even see any light in our lives.

That happened within my marriage in which my wife voiced her frustrations and concerns, and I could've retaliated back because I was extremely stressed as well, but I listened.

I REALLY listened.

I didn't try to coach her nor did I try to fix the situation.

I just sat there and listened to what my wife was saying, knowing that the struggles that we had when we were facing bankruptcy years ago wasn't what she signed up for.

So what's today's lesson?

Learn how to be a great listener.

Don't be the person that doesn't know how to hear, let alone isn't willing to listen.

As Stephen R Covey stated, we need to "Seek first to understand and then to be understood." -Stephen R Covey

I had to be man enough to listen to my wife without trying to fix her.

The second part of this is to BE STILL.

Be still, and know that He is God and is aware of where we're at in life, regardless of if we're prospering or collapsing.

During the dark times, we need to learn to  BE STILL.

We all will have a time that we get to the point that we say, "I am Yours" because the despair gets to be too much.

God has delivered me, and I promise that He can deliver you as well.

Whether it's as the Children of Israel with Moses or as the leader in your home, if you are doing your part today, doing everything you know you must do and being who you are meant to be, then BE STILL and know that He is God.

I believe God will help us deal with whatever hardships we're facing, the Refiner's Fire requires us to BE STILL as we humble ourselves and know that God is aware of us.

If you're fatigued, wouldn't you want to know what the problem is?

This was me with my physical body, and even though my wife was telling me to get to the doctor, I was too tired to take the time to do that.

Finally, I decided to finally listen to my wife and went.

I got to the root of the problem.

The only way I could have done that was to ask a lot of questions, but before that, I needed to have a DESIRE to get to the root of the problem in the first place. 

If something feels "off" in your life, get to the root.

Have a desire to deal with the problem to get yourself to the point of getting to the root of the problem in the first place.

You need to have a DESIRE to get to the root of the problem. 

I started to really analyze what was going on, asking questions within myself, and finally got to the point that I went to the doctor and received some answers for what I've been needing. 

Across every aspect of your life, if you're off, ask yourself, "What do I truly want?"

Whether it's your spirituality, your marriage and family, or your body, it all ultimately comes down to you. 

Getting to the root of your problem comes down to getting to the root of YOU.

Great parents love their children and want to be with them, so if I want to get to the root of building up my boys, I need to invest in my time to be VALUABLE with them.

This is the same concept that makes a strong and successful business. Make your intention part of asking powerful questions so that you can get powerful answers.

And then listen.

It's not going to do you any good if you ask powerful questions but then get too busy to listen for the answer. 

Make sure you're being honest, truthful and transparent about it.

Ask yourself:

* Where in my life can I get to the root of the problem? 

* What do I truly want?

* What is my intention to get powerful answers after asking powerful questions? 

Incredible things can happen when you get to the ROOT of the problem.