Have you ever been told that you're just not strong enough?
I have.
Don't beat yourself up if this has happened to you as well, but there are 4 main reasons that I have found in my own life that when I fell short on them, I fell short on achieving my end results.
The 4 C's of not getting what what we want are when we fall short with:
Clarity gives us what we want and answers the essential question of why it matters.
Capacity is where I fell short with Kokoro. I didn't have the capacity and power to do what I wanted to hit the standards required for this SealFit program. It can ALWAYS be increased.
Between these two, a lot of issues and problems that arise in our lives get resolved.
Certainty is more than just knowing something. We can have knowledge in something, but it requires confidence in knowing WHO YOU ARE in that achievement to attain certainty.
When I played football I had a sure certainty.
Commitment brings it all together in which you do what is required and what you said that you were going to do.
This is also an area that many of us fall short on, especially when we're not honest with ourselves of what is required in order to achieve the outcome that we want.
Ask yourself:
* Do I have clarity to know what I want in my life and why it matters?
* What is the capacity and power required from me to hit the standards I've set for myself?
* What am I realistically willing to commit to so that I can have certainty in getting the results I desire?
With these 4 C's, you can really solve whatever it is that you are not creating in your life.
While securing one of my Brothers in Kokoro 45, I learned that one of the men had died shortly after the event was secured (finished).
The short time that I knew Kirk Deligiannis, he always had a smile on his face and was someone that LIVED his life.
I am reminded of the quote from William Wallace in the movie Braveheart that "Every man dies, [but] not every man really lives."
This tragedy has cased a lot of reflection in my own life, and to look at my own life, in which I'm ready to go if it's my time to go because I've been LIVING my life.
Do I want to leave my family and friends? Hell, no.
But there are 3 things that I've learned to ask myself to see if I'm living my life to the fullest:
The purpose of life is eternal expansion.
It's about living your life to the fullest.
We ALL die.
We are all on the path for death, but it depends on what we do with the life that we are given that determines the legacy that we will leave behind, if any.
We are not meant to dwell in doom and gloom with this knowledge that we're all going to die, but to life a life with PURPOSE.
Start WINNING your day EVERY SINGLE DAY.
Smile.
Breathe.
There's no need to be so uptight about life and get stuffy about the inevitability of death.
Ask yourself:
* Am I clear about what I want from my life?
* If life was like a game, am I a winning player?
* How can I enjoy my life more and have fun?
This podcast episode has been dedicated to Kirk Deligiannis, a man that lived his life as a winning player and to the fullest.
I grew up being taught that I shouldn't be proud of my accomplishments.
That I should practice humility instead.
That resulted in having to PRETEND to not allow greatness into my life.
Humility was defined as being quiet and not acknowledging the gifts that I've been able to acquire and share.
But do you know the real truth about it all?
This was really defined as a false sense of humility.
This false humility was self-damaging, in which in an attempt to be "humble," I was actually no longer allowing myself to FEEL GREAT.
I wouldn't acknowledge the greatness within me and how it could contribute to making my world a better place because it would then go through another false sense of self, which is that pride in one's self is wrong.
This false humility gets in the way.
Humility is an incredible attribute and characteristic, and when used correctly, it leads to learning that we can always be more through expansion.
When humility gets misused, it becomes damaging, because false humility forces us to play small.
We don't want to look like we're bragging.
As it states in Matthew 5:14-16, we need to "Let your light so shine, so that others may see your good works."
This false humility holds us back from truly succeeding to our full potential.
Those that are the most successful live their life in a powerful way by allowing their greatness to shine so that as they achieve their accomplishments, they make other people's lives better as well.
Powerful is NOT pretending that you're not great.
Don't pretend that you're not great!
If you're good at something, OWN IT!
There are so many powerful people that don't know that they're great!
Humility is knowing who you are.
When you know who you are, you are able to achieve greatness in an empowering way that builds you and everyone else up that is around you.
Humility is using your gifts and talents in a responsible and empowering way.
We create value for other people.
Powerful is being thankful; when someone gives you a compliment, allow yourself to accept it.
Humility is recognizing your greatness.
We can all play bigger and do more, but you know what else we can do?
We can CELEBRATE our greatness and reward ourselves for achieving our accomplishments.
False humility is brought about through fear: fear of appearing "too flashy" to others.
We need to make a commitment to shift playing small and overcoming the resistance to be proud in what we've been able to accomplish.
This isn't about becoming materialistic and worldly, but allowing yourself to play at the highest level, and allow yourself to serve other people. Part of that is in dropping your false humility so that you can play bigger.
Sincerely accept compliments and honor people by not burying your talents.
That is what true humility and success is made of.
Ask yourself:
* When was the last time that I sincerely accepted a compliment from someone?
* What area of my life am I great at that I have never allowed to go all in?
* What can I do to shift my perspective of what it means to be humble so that I am still able to achieve greatness?
Stop burying your talents, get rid of the false humility and LIVE THE LIFE THAT YOU WANT TO LIVE.
It's been a while since the last recording of a podcast, but I am ready to Rock n Roll!
So what do I mean by "win the day?"
Since it's now football season and you know how I love my football, let's use that as an example on how to approach life.
In the book by Bill Walsh The Score Takes Care of Itself, he uses football as an analogy for business, which I've learned great principles from as well.
Can YOU do your job well enough that it allows you to play the game.
Oftentimes we set incremental goals that we want to get from Point A to Point B in various parts of our life, but then we
The Science of Getting Rich and Millionaire Mindset are great books, but if you're not willing to do your job and the work that's necessary, then you're not going to meet your goals.
If ALL you did was win the day TODAY, and then did that everyday, then your life is no different than a full winning streak a football team would have for their season.
It's about following through with what you said you're going to do.
The job is irrelevant; it's what you DO that matters.
By breaking the day up into 4 Quarters like in football, I am able to accomplish so much with a purpose.
I go into my day with a game plan.
All successful people do.
If you want to achieve success in your life, you MUST have necessary required actions (NRAs) that will help you achieve what you desire.
I call them my Daily ATMs:
ACTIONS
THAT
MATTER
When I hit each of these, I am one play closer to a touchdown, a winning result for the day. I get out what I put in. By moving along each quarter of my day with my Daily ATMs, the more consistent I remain, I can win the game.
I can win the day.
When you win the day, you can focus on winning the next day, which goes into the whole week, that transfers to the whole month, and so on.
What does winning the day look like for me?
I do what is that I say I'm going to do.
Say what it is that you're going to do and then GO DO IT!
When you do what winners do, you win.
Ask yourself:
* What is a small necessary action that I do on a daily basis already?
* What does winning the day look like for me?
* What is something that I can commit to and implement today to get me closer to where I want to be?
Live in a way that allows you to move powerfully towards winning TODAY. It's about taking small steps. #WINTHEDAY